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Love Lessons

xocrystalnicole / Love Lessons

For Those Who Want Love That Feels Like 90s R&B

Listening to 90s R&B will have you believing that love like that still exists. It’ll have you believing that One Sweet Day, you’ll be Fortunate to have someone who says more than Let’s Chill. Someone who will plan a date, pick you up, and greet you with My, My, My, as you saunter out in that red dress and those high heels they like. They’ll make you forget about all the nights you begged so-and-so...

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The Truth About Women Who Are Hard To Get

woman plural women \ˈwi-mən\ a: an adult* female person *adult- characterized by more than age, but also maturity. Now that we’re clear about the women I’m referring to, we can proceed. Dating nowadays can be…entertaining, to say the least. With everything, there’s the good, the bad, and the downright ugly, and unless you’re one of the lucky few who get it right on the first try, you’re going to have to rummage through the selection to find the right fit. The...

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This Is What Letting Go Of Your Ex Feels Like

Sometimes things come up so we can purge and release them, and other times, things come up just to show us how far we’ve come and how much we’ve progressed. It’s nearly a rite of passage to get to the point of no longer feeling the pain and hurt associated with a former relationship, whatever kind of relationship it was. The last test before you’re awarded the certificate of completion for all your hard work....

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The One Who Got Away: The Aftermath

Now that the dust has settled and realization kicks in, you realize that you lost a great thing, a gem, and, in some cases, there's no getting that back.   What do you do next?   You check yourself. Go deep, below the surface. Be honest and vulnerable with yourself and admit where you went wrong. Not where the other person went wrong, but you. Then, do better. Do better with yourself, do better in your platonic relationships, and...

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The One Who Got Away

The saying goes, "you never miss a good thing until it leaves you," but the truer statement is, you never thought that good thing would leave you, so you failed to cherish it while you had it.   During my "dating" life, or lack thereof, I've questioned what my purpose was with the people I met. I've always wondered whether my purpose was merely to show the people I encounter what unconditional love was. To give love...

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The Burden Of One-sided Relationships

There is an epidemic of one-sided relationships. Relationships void of reciprocation, give and take, and collaboration. These relationships are burdensome, and they appear in any type of relationship. Whether it’s a friendship, business partnership, intimate relationship, and yes, even familial relationships, many women are carrying the weight of a relationship, or many relationships, on their back. For any relationship to work, there has to be teamwork, collaboration, and a willingness from both (or all) parties to...

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Plant Your Seeds On Fertile Ground

Many of you are sitting on seeds that are plentiful—the kind that will produce a bountiful harvest. The problem? You’re too afraid to fail, too afraid to try, too afraid to do the work. Farming is not a glamorous job in the least, but it’s necessary. It’s a source of food and nourishment for people, and what you have to offer, that bridled passion you’re sitting on because you’re afraid, is nourishment for other people....

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Marriage is Not an Achievement

Reflection allows you to think about a lot of things that, otherwise, may not have received any attention. The most prominent part of this self-love/self-discovery journey is figuring out who I am. How can I love myself if I don’t honestly know who I am? It’s not possible. And, you may be thinking, how could you possibly not know yourself. The answer is simple: most of us only know our representative. Sound familiar? In dating, we’re told...

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what to do while single

5 Things To Do While Single To Prepare For Your Next Relationship

After a six-year relationship, I didn't know the first thing about being single or what to do while single. I had spent so much time with one person that I didn't know what to do now that I was alone. Now that I've been single for two years, I have a greater understanding of how to navigate through singlehood successfully. Be single This should go without saying, but not everyone truly understands what this means. Keeping in...

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