The Truth About Women Who Are Hard To Get
plural women \ˈwi-mən\
a: an adult* female person
*adult– characterized by more than age, but also maturity.
Now that we’re clear about the women I’m referring to, we can proceed.
Dating nowadays can be…entertaining, to say the least. With everything, there’s the good, the bad, and the downright ugly, and unless you’re one of the lucky few who get it right on the first try, you’re going to have to rummage through the selection to find the right fit.
The woman who is hard to get, dope (not baking soda) on all levels, a rarity, is often characterized as someone who is playing hard to get. But, the truth of the matter is, a woman like that is hard to get—we’re not playing! It seems that some men and women have yet to grow out of the grade-school mentality. You know, where you’re awarded a ribbon simply for being present. That mentality has too many people thinking they somehow deserve to be rewarded simply for existing.
It takes more than simply showing up in someone’s life to be rewarded with their time, affection, trust, and anything else they have to offer. If you want a woman who is “hard to get”, you have to do things that show you’re worthy of such a prize. You merely expressing interest isn’t enough to move her. Your money, your accolades, your status, is not enough to move her, so what else can you offer? What else are you bringing to a woman who is self-sufficient?
Winning the attention of a woman who is sure of her worth and value and who is not willing to settle is not an easy feat, and you shouldn’t expect it to be. Women like that pour into themselves often, provide for themselves in all ways, and are not willing to adjust their standards just to say they have someone—anyone. That’s not to say that she is too independent and doesn’t yearn for someone she can love and be committed to, but she’s looking for an asset, not a liability.
Be prepared to match and/or exceed what she’s already giving to herself. If you cannot add to her life, leave. Her. Alone. There are no handouts, no rewards, and no benefits for those who underperform, so unless you’re willing to do what it takes to attain the “unattainable”, continue watching from the sidelines.