The One Who Got Away
The saying goes, “you never miss a good thing until it leaves you,” but the truer statement is, you never thought that good thing would leave you, so you failed to cherish it while you had it.
During my “dating” life, or lack thereof, I’ve questioned what my purpose was with the people I met. I’ve always wondered whether my purpose was merely to show the people I encounter what unconditional love was. To give love to people who had been traumatized by poor displays of love and to those who had never received genuine love. I wondered if I was just meant to be part of the pre-requisites before they moved on to the real thing. You know, the person who helps them become better—not because I changed them, but because they wanted to—so that they’re now ready to handle their next relationship.
But, I realized God wouldn’t play me like that. Nah.
As I’ve grown in my spirituality, I understand now that we meet people to clear karmic debts, to see ourselves, and to face the shadows we try to hide from. It’s a part of the growing process, and growth isn’t easy, nor is it fun. It stretches you and makes you uncomfortable, and that’s why we avoid it at all costs.
What I once looked at as cruel punishment, I now see as an infinite blessing. God was never punishing me; He was protecting me—protecting me from myself. Essentially, every person we meet is a mirror, and they are there so that we can see ourselves, heal what needs to be healed, and grow into a more experienced and wiser version of ourselves.
I realize now that not everyone is ready to grow, heal and evolve, and that’s okay. We all have to do things at our own pace, and in our own way, but it’s not my duty to stand by until you decide you’re ready.
And, so, I walked away from people, situations, and relationships that were no longer serving me. I walked away knowing I had given what I could and had left them with something they would uncover when they were ready. What was left were the memories, but also the lessons. Lessons that might have been too much to handle back then, but someday, when they’re ready, they’ll be there waiting, and at that moment, they’ll realize…
I was the one who got away.