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April 9, 2018

The One Who Got Away: The Aftermath

Now that the dust has settled and realization kicks in, you realize that you lost a great thing, a gem, and, in some cases, there's no getting that back. What do you do next? You check yourself. Go deep, below the surface. Be honest and vulnerable with yourself and admit where you went wrong. Not where the other person went wrong, but you. Then, do better. Do better with yourself, do better in your platonic relationships, and...

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April 6, 2018

Love Lessons The Journey

The One Who Got Away

The saying goes, "you never miss a good thing until it leaves you," but the truer statement is, you never thought that good thing would leave you, so you failed to cherish it while you had it. During my "dating" life, or lack thereof, I've questioned what my purpose was with the people I met. I've always wondered whether my purpose was merely to show the people I encounter what unconditional love was. To give love...

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April 4, 2018

Love Lessons The Journey

The Burden Of One-sided Relationships

There is an epidemic of one-sided relationships. Relationships void of reciprocation, give and take, and collaboration. These relationships are burdensome, and they appear in any type of relationship. Whether it’s a friendship, business partnership, intimate relationship, and yes, even familial relationships, many women are carrying the weight of a relationship, or many relationships, on their back. For any relationship to work, there has to be teamwork, collaboration, and a willingness from both (or all) parties to...

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November 25, 2017

The Journey

Social Media Has Ruined My Confidence

The narrative is frequently that we should forgive others, and we should, but we must also extend that same courtesy to ourselves....

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November 17, 2017

Love Lessons The Journey

5 Things To Do While Single To Prepare For Your Next Relationship

After a six-year relationship, I didn't know the first thing about being single or what to do while single. I had spent so much time with one person that I didn't know what to do now that I was alone. Now that I've been single for two years, I have a greater understanding of how to navigate through singlehood successfully. Be single This should go without saying, but not everyone truly understands what this means. Keeping in...

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November 3, 2017

Love Lessons The Journey

You’ll Never Find Love Until You Do This

This society has too many broken people trying to find wholeness together instead of being whole on their own. ...

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October 28, 2017

Love Lessons

Lessons Learned From Failed Relationships

But, being hurt isn’t nearly as important as what we choose to do with it. You can choose to still love, to try again after failing, or you can relinquish your power and allow what has already happened to block what is to come....

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October 25, 2017

The Journey

25 Things I Wish I Could Say To My Grandmother

In most black families, our grandmothers are the glue that holds us together. She’s often a praying woman, a woman full of love, and undoubtedly, one of the best cooks you’ll ever meet, at least mine was. She was affectionately known by her grandchildren as grandmommy, but whether you called yours grandma, granny, or Big Mama, for most of us, she was a symbol of strength and the matriarch of our family. So, today, October 25,...

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