3 Ways To Conquer Envy And Live Your Best Life
The saying goes, “They wanna see you do good, but never better than them” and it’s been a bitter pill to swallow. Although we know this statement to be true, when it’s in your own circle, it’s hard to deal with. Often, we think the company we choose to keep, whether it’s your family or friends, only want the best for us, and when we begin to make money moves, they’re right there cheering us on.
That’s not always the case.
And, maybe it’s not the people around you with this mentality; perhaps you’re the friend who can’t be happy when your friends and family start reaching levels you haven’t quite reached. How you choose to respond to someone else’s good news says a lot about who you are as a person, and where you’re going.
If there’s one thing I know, it’s that how you celebrate (or hate) on someone else’s accomplishments will determine how far you get in life. If you can’t celebrate someone else’s new relationship, marriage, job, pregnancy, home, business, or whatever it is they’re doing, you’ll block your blessings. Your negative energy blocks you from receiving the things that are for you because you’re not expressing gratitude.
Because this is a place of honesty and transparency, I have to be honest. I didn’t always clap when I saw other people getting the things I wanted, and it wasn’t coming from a place of hate, but I was tired of waiting and it never happening for me. Everyone else seemed to be getting the house, car, relationship, job, business, etc., meanwhile, I was being overlooked. I couldn’t understand why I kept being skipped, but then I had to check myself.
My negative energy prevented me from having the things I desired. I couldn’t be happy for other people and got into the mindset of ‘why me’ instead of asking the right questions. I didn’t ask why I was in the situation I was in; I just knew that I wasn’t getting my piece of the pie and everyone else was. When I realized that I was the one preventing my success from happening, I had to make the necessary adjustments.
If you find yourself feeling discouraged when you see other people getting what you want, these tips have proven to be helpful for me.
- Practice Gratitude
If you want to have more than you currently have, be grateful for the things you already have. Practicing gratitude is one of the best ways to manifest the things you desire.
- Congratulate, don’t hate
Make an honest effort to clap for people when they win. Someone else’s win doesn’t deplete your success. Success doesn’t run out; there’s enough for everyone. Even if your attitude is stuck on stank, do it anyway, and do it without ill intent. It will become a natural reaction to congratulate others the more you do it.
- Check yourself
To solve any problem, you have to get down to the root. Figure out why you can’t be happy for other people who are accomplishing their goals. I promise it has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with you. Until you resolve the issues that cause you to have this negative attitude to someone else’s success, you will not receive the success you’re waiting for.
Have you ever found yourself side-eyeing someone’s accomplishment? Be honest, there’s no judgment. Have you been on the receiving end of this envy? How’d you handle it? Especially if it came from family and/or friends.