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5 Things To Do While Single To Prepare For Your Next Relationship

After a six-year relationship, I didn’t know the first thing about being single or what to do while single. I had spent so much time with one person that I didn’t know what to do now that I was alone.

Now that I’ve been single for two years, I have a greater understanding of how to navigate through singlehood successfully.

  1. Be single

This should go without saying, but not everyone truly understands what this means. Keeping in contact with your ex, forming almost relationships, having “casual” sex with the same person (or multiple people) are all forms of relationships.

Too many people fear being alone so much they settle for anything. If you’re emotionally, mentally, or physically attached to someone, you are not entirely single.

Cut off ties with your ex, keep your legs closed, and spend time with yourself. Reflect on what went wrong, work on yourself, get a new hobby, anything besides jumping into another relationship right away.

  1. Date yourself

Do things you enjoy, and do things you’ve never done before. Try a new restaurant, go to the movies alone, travel, visit a museum—whatever you enjoy, do it, and do it often.

Dating yourself allows you time to get to know who you are as an individual and learn what you like and dislike.

  1. Self-improvement

Spend time working on yourself. Being single gives you time to reflect on past relationships and pinpoint where you can improve for your next relationship.

This is the time to be open and honest with yourself. Be vulnerable, be brutally honest, and make a sincere effort to change the things you need to work on.

This is also the perfect time to strengthen your spiritual relationship. Pray, meditate, join a church, do yoga. Whatever makes you feel spiritually aligned, do that.

  1. Practice patience

If you’ve been single for a while, you may have that dating itch. While you may thoroughly enjoy being single, we all have moments when we crave companionship, we want cute date nights, and we miss having that special someone.

Your feelings, wants and desires are valid, but practice patience.

No one wants to repeatedly go through the process of meeting someone, getting to know them, developing a bond, only for things not to work out. It’s tiring. It’s frustrating. And I’m sure you’re over it.

So, be mindful when it comes to dating. Don’t rush the process. You’ll know when you’re ready to date.

If the only time you want to date is when you feel lonely, you’re not ready.

  1. Live

Life doesn’t stop just because you’re single. You don’t have to forfeit having a social life because you no longer have someone to do things with. Reach out to friends and family who you may have neglected while being in a relationship. Go out alone and enjoy your own company.

Do the things you’ve always wanted to do but perhaps didn’t do because of your ex. Cut your hair, change your style, get back in shape. Sometimes making those drastic changes are just the push we need to get moving in the right direction.

The person you want will find you when they’re supposed to. In the meantime, enjoy every single minute of your life. Love on yourself because that is how you attract the love you want.

Comments

  • Kimberly B

    I think this list is spot on! Most of my adult life was monogamous relationship one after another. Once I stopped dating and did 3/5 things on this list I finally find my direction, purpose and passion in life!

  • Chelsea

    These are great tips! Before I was married, I spent time on step #3, not really thinking about dating. That’s exactly when I met my husband!

  • Keisha

    Nice post! I totally agree with you and I’ve never been one to feel like I needed to be in a relationship in order to feel completed. There is so much room for self improvement and self reflection once you are able to shift the focus to self. Thanks for sharing!

  • Lovely Leslie

    Such an important message here. We all need these reminders to live , laugh, love on yourself before anyone else. Thanks for sharing!

  • Tisha

    I think the first point is so important- a lot of girls seem to come out of relationships and forget to actually be single! Then before you know it they’ve jumped into the next relationship! Thank you so much for sharing!

  • Ol

    The Bible says that singleness is a gift. I believe it should definitely be viewed as that. One other thing I might add to your already great list is to do things for others. Giving your time and energy to the people who need it is extremely satisfying.

  • Felecia Monique

    Amen! I’m learning how to be single myself and it’s no easy task. Great content!

  • Bernetta

    I think this is a good list. It’s important to really let the ex go when it’s over. It’s hard sometimes but the right thing to do.

  • Kirstin Fuller

    Great article! I agree, we should enjoy being single and get ourselves totally together and ready to love. No need to rush. The right one will be there when we’re ready.

  • Kiwi

    I been single for so long I might go on sale lol jk. In the meantime I am totally dating myself and traveling my butt off!

  • Eva

    Live. Best advice! I went out, went to football games, took in a movie, took a book to dinner… it was kinda wonderful.

  • Kasi

    These are some great tips! I completely agree, you have to live your best life while you’re single!

  • Elle (CleverlyChanging)

    3 of my older sisters are single. They’ve been dating and loving on themselves for years. I think balance and wholeness is important, but if you actually want to meet someone you have to go to where men are found. Church is not going to be the main jump off spot.

  • Joyce Brewer

    Love the list. Travel is also really important while you’re single. You can spend as much or as little as you want, stick with your own schedule and develop your own interests.
    I went to Europe for my 30th birthday, by myself and it was the best decision EVER!

  • Rimsha

    This is great advice!! I’m so over the whole “Grab a tub of icecream and cry!” It’s so important to live and make sure that you’re super happy with yourself before anyone else. Loved this post!

  • Stacie

    When I was younger, I couldn’t wait until I got married. Now, I wish I would have done more things like this. It would have made me better.

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