5 Things To Do While Single To Prepare For Your Next Relationship
After a six-year relationship, I didn’t know the first thing about being single or what to do while single. I had spent so much time with one person that I didn’t know what to do now that I was alone.
Now that I’ve been single for two years, I have a greater understanding of how to navigate through singlehood successfully.
- Be single
This should go without saying, but not everyone truly understands what this means. Keeping in contact with your ex, forming almost relationships, having “casual” sex with the same person (or multiple people) are all forms of relationships.
Too many people fear being alone so much they settle for anything. If you’re emotionally, mentally, or physically attached to someone, you are not entirely single.
Cut off ties with your ex, keep your legs closed, and spend time with yourself. Reflect on what went wrong, work on yourself, get a new hobby, anything besides jumping into another relationship right away.
- Date yourself
Do things you enjoy, and do things you’ve never done before. Try a new restaurant, go to the movies alone, travel, visit a museum—whatever you enjoy, do it, and do it often.
Dating yourself allows you time to get to know who you are as an individual and learn what you like and dislike.
Spend time working on yourself. Being single gives you time to reflect on past relationships and pinpoint where you can improve for your next relationship.
This is the time to be open and honest with yourself. Be vulnerable, be brutally honest, and make a sincere effort to change the things you need to work on.
This is also the perfect time to strengthen your spiritual relationship. Pray, meditate, join a church, do yoga. Whatever makes you feel spiritually aligned, do that.
- Practice patience
If you’ve been single for a while, you may have that dating itch. While you may thoroughly enjoy being single, we all have moments when we crave companionship, we want cute date nights, and we miss having that special someone.
Your feelings, wants and desires are valid, but practice patience.
No one wants to repeatedly go through the process of meeting someone, getting to know them, developing a bond, only for things not to work out. It’s tiring. It’s frustrating. And I’m sure you’re over it.
So, be mindful when it comes to dating. Don’t rush the process. You’ll know when you’re ready to date.
If the only time you want to date is when you feel lonely, you’re not ready.
Life doesn’t stop just because you’re single. You don’t have to forfeit having a social life because you no longer have someone to do things with. Reach out to friends and family who you may have neglected while being in a relationship. Go out alone and enjoy your own company.
Do the things you’ve always wanted to do but perhaps didn’t do because of your ex. Cut your hair, change your style, get back in shape. Sometimes making those drastic changes are just the push we need to get moving in the right direction.
The person you want will find you when they’re supposed to. In the meantime, enjoy every single minute of your life. Love on yourself because that is how you attract the love you want.