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You Don’t Have To Struggle To Be Successful

It’s okay to not be okay.

It is also okay to be okay.

It’s okay to be happy. It’s okay to accomplish things that don’t require a struggle. It’s okay for things to work out for you, all at once.

It is okay.

I’ve had to preach this sermon to myself so much lately because, when I look at my life, I’ve been incredibly blessed in so many areas. I come from a single-parent household, but I don’t know what it’s like to see my mom struggle or to go without and that’s a blessing. If there were ever a time that we were struggling, I didn’t know about it because I’ve always had everything I needed, and even the things I wanted.

I’m beyond thankful for that, and I understand that not everyone can say the same thing. Not everyone has had such a pleasant upbringing, and because of that, it makes it difficult for me to fully celebrate what I’ve accomplished because it didn’t require a struggle first.

It seems most celebrities or anyone who has reached a high level of success always come from situations that are less than favorable. They lived in poverty, didn’t have parents, were raised in the system, resorted to illegal activities to survive, and the list goes on and on. So, to see these people who had all the odds stacked against them win, make something of themselves, and go on to do great things despite the environment they grew up in is admirable. It’s something to aspire to and a message of hope that it doesn’t matter where you come from; the only thing that matters is where you’re going.

But, that’s not my story. That’s not to say that I’ve never gone through anything in my life because that’s not the case, it just doesn’t compare to what other people have gone through, and I recognize that. And, in acknowledging that, it causes me to dim the light on my accomplishments because I didn’t struggle for them in the way some people have. I didn’t have as many odds stacked against me.

I’ve had to realize that it’s okay for me to win even if I didn’t have to go through as much as the next person. Nothing in this life has been handed to me; I’ve had to work for the things I have, and I have to work to keep them. I also realize that comparison is something that should be avoided (and I’m working on it) but for those people who have a similar situation where you don’t have rags to riches story or life hasn’t completely taken you through the trenches, it is okay for you to win without struggling. It doesn’t take away from what you’ve accomplished.

What accomplishments are you proud of? Brag about yourself in the comments below!


  • Sapphire Kharyzma

    I am grateful for my resilience! It has rekindled my creative passion and sparked my entrepreneurship! Success comes in layers and I can’t wait to see what 2018 will bring!

  • Vanessa

    Beautiful story. You were worth the push to give you abundance.

  • Natasha

    You’ve preached a good word here. There is something so sad about people who don’t cheer for those who don’t have tests and trials through EVERY thing that they go through. I’m glad that you’re embracing the joy in celebrating YOU when you want.

  • EG III

    Beautifully said. We all struggle, but when we step back and look at the struggles of others ours often pale in comparison. Probably the biggest achievement I’ve had to overcome thus far in life was breaking my neck and making a full recovery.

  • Eva

    There are so many different struggles. I grew up with 2 professionals as parents, so I can’t say I had a poverty struggle. I went to college, so no education struggle, but there is always something to overcome. I am proud of my steadfastness and creativity. That is what I have relied upon for my successes.

  • Mimi Green

    I believe in celebrating all of my highs. I also believe in celebrating those around me. I am however a very compassionate person. I believe that celebrating one doesn’t dim someone’s light. You earned it.

  • Stacie

    Everyone’s story is their own story and that’s okay. I have many things to be thankful for, too many to list here but I’m grateful.

  • Bernetta

    Very true message. We are all on our own path and my goal is just to enjoy life. Enjoy the journey!

  • Elle (CleverlyChanging)

    A lot of what you mentioned is perspective. It’s great that you don’t see struggling in your pathway, but that probably says a lot about your outlook and how you define struggle. Keep succeeding and doing well!

  • danasia guyton

    This blog post is right on time. I’m proud of what I’ve been able to accomplish this year but at times struggle with it feeling like it’s not enough.

  • Kasi

    Love this piece as usual, it’s so real! My blog is one of my biggest accomplishments that I’m most proud of.

  • Tiffany H.

    This is so me, I used to say why am I so blessed. Some people have tragedy after tragedy and that is not necessarily story. I even say I should be complaining when people have it worse than me.The reality is we all have struggles and we must just be grateful for the blessings God has bestowed on us

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