Fear Is Keeping You Stagnant, But It Doesn’t Have To
Day eight of the Twelve Days of Crysmas is all about overcoming fear. Are you honestly ready to make a change, or are you content being comfortable?
Day Eight: Do the Things That Scare You
One of the best things I did for myself this year was to do things that scare me. I pushed myself to do the things I had been putting off because I was too afraid to fail… and too scared to succeed. However, I did them anyway and, in some cases, they proved to be successful. In other cases, things didn’t go as I had planned, but I learned that life doesn’t end when you don’t get what you’re going after. It does not mean you’ve been denied, you’ve merely been delayed.
Being delayed is a good thing because it means something better is coming. It also means there may still be work that needs to be done on your end. Maybe you’re like me, and you have a negative thinking pattern that you may not completely realize. You may be the most positive, encouraging, optimistic person you know externally, but internally, there’s a part of you that doesn’t believe you deserve to win. You don’t think you’re worthy enough to have that job, that business, that home. No one else around you are getting those things, so why should you?
You should because the dream is yours, not theirs. You had the vision because you have the tools to make it happen—you already have the tools. They are inside of you, waiting for you to make the next move so things can finally fall into place for you. Nothing else needs to be set in motion but you.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear, patiently waiting for you to decide you’re good enough. Patiently waiting for you to let go of the ideologies that you shouldn’t have nice things because no one in your family does, or you’re not materialistic, or you didn’t struggle long enough to get it.
I implore you to take chances in 2018. Do the things that terrify you. Do the things you’re not quite ready to do. Do the things you know you should have done a long time ago. For you, that may not be starting a business, applying for a new position, or buying a home. For you it may be leaving a marriage or relationship, walking away from longtime friends, or separating yourself from toxic family members. Sometimes our dependency on other people is a crutch, and it’s the crutch that is keeping you from everything you want.
What are some of the things that scare you, and how do you plan to conquer them in 2018?