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Fear Is Keeping You Stagnant, But It Doesn’t Have To

Day eight of the Twelve Days of Crysmas is all about overcoming fear. Are you honestly ready to make a change, or are you content being comfortable?

Day Eight: Do the Things That Scare You

One of the best things I did for myself this year was to do things that scare me. I pushed myself to do the things I had been putting off because I was too afraid to fail… and too scared to succeed. However, I did them anyway and, in some cases, they proved to be successful. In other cases, things didn’t go as I had planned, but I learned that life doesn’t end when you don’t get what you’re going after. It does not mean you’ve been denied, you’ve merely been delayed.

Being delayed is a good thing because it means something better is coming. It also means there may still be work that needs to be done on your end. Maybe you’re like me, and you have a negative thinking pattern that you may not completely realize. You may be the most positive, encouraging, optimistic person you know externally, but internally, there’s a part of you that doesn’t believe you deserve to win. You don’t think you’re worthy enough to have that job, that business, that home. No one else around you are getting those things, so why should you?

You should because the dream is yours, not theirs. You had the vision because you have the tools to make it happen—you already have the tools. They are inside of you, waiting for you to make the next move so things can finally fall into place for you. Nothing else needs to be set in motion but you.

Everything you want is on the other side of fear, patiently waiting for you to decide you’re good enough. Patiently waiting for you to let go of the ideologies that you shouldn’t have nice things because no one in your family does, or you’re not materialistic, or you didn’t struggle long enough to get it.

I implore you to take chances in 2018. Do the things that terrify you. Do the things you’re not quite ready to do. Do the things you know you should have done a long time ago. For you, that may not be starting a business, applying for a new position, or buying a home. For you it may be leaving a marriage or relationship, walking away from longtime friends, or separating yourself from toxic family members. Sometimes our dependency on other people is a crutch, and it’s the crutch that is keeping you from everything you want.

What are some of the things that scare you, and how do you plan to conquer them in 2018?


  • Sheena Steward

    This is such an inspirational post and it was a great thing to read this morning to start my day. I look forward to the other days days of your 12 days.

  • Ol

    Yes, fear can play a major role and being stagnant-unproductive. But I say don’t through it completely out the window because it can help you to avoid making rash decisions. At least that’s how it works for me.

  • serena hale

    Being told no kinda sorta scares me, but I am going to take more chances and deal with the nos gracefully.

  • Jay Colby

    I love reading motivational articles. I agree fear can play huge factor in our mental health and our ability to step out of our comfort zone.

  • Stacie

    Fear can keep you immobilized if you let it. There are a lot of things that I plan on working on this year.

  • Sapphire Kharyzma

    Fear is the reason why so many fail before they even begin! I refuse to allow fear to take up any residence in my life anymore!

  • Courtney

    The funny thing is although I’m a travel blogger, I don’t particularly enjoy flying. I’m cool until there’s turbulence and my internal anxiety goes OFF. However, I’ve got too much to see to let that keep me down!

  • Kita

    Getting on a plane scares me. This year I will be taking my first plane ride. I am determined to conquer this fear.

  • Kasi

    This is a great post about conquering your fears! I’d say videos of myself make me uncomfortable, but I’ve been slowly getting into it with instastories since last year, because I want to incorporate videos with my blog.

  • Natasha

    I sent an email that scared me, and then the reply came, and I was scared to open it. I’m glad that I did because it was full of good news! Keep these posts coming, they are great!

  • Nanekia Ansari

    I started taking chances last year, stepping completely outside my comfort zone and I love it. Thanks for the reminder to keep moving forward.

  • Sanaa Brooks

    I actually need to start doing this. I think I started a bit last year and now I need to fully go into it and just LIVE. Thanks for the reminder. It’s definitely needed.

  • LaShawn

    I sent an email that scared me last week. Once the email came back, I honestly don’t know what I was scared of! It’s good to get out of your comfort zone!

  • Elle (CleverlyChanging)

    I’ve been challenging myself more; especially because I have kids who are watching me. Before kids, I always played it safe and rarely took risks. Now I am changing because risk promotes growth.

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