You Need This Kind Of Friend In Your Circle
You need friends who are honest, not yes-men who only tell you what you want to hear. You need friends who don’t sugarcoat things and who ‘tell it like it is.’
You need friends who will call you out when you’re wrong and not cosign your wrong behavior.
You need friends who push you to want more for yourself, not friends who hold you back because they’re okay with mediocrity.
Every so often, you need to check your circle and ensure that the people around you mimic where you’re trying to go. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together, and if you don’t believe it, look around you.
As we evolve and continue to grow as individuals, it’s vital that we recognize when we’ve outgrown someone. It’s not always easy to let go of friends who have always been around, but it’s necessary. And no, it doesn’t make you fake or phony for wanting people around you who match your grind and who have a similar mindset.
Eventually, we grow up and our goals and desires for our life change. Going to the club every weekend, and being on every scene stops being important. We start focusing on building credit, making money, establishing ourselves, and starting a family, and that’s okay. Evolution is needed, and to progress and reach new heights, you have to cut people off who have been holding you back.
It’s essential that as much as we encourage one another, we also let each other know the truth. We must also be willing to accept constructive criticism and not become offended by it. Everyone who doesn’t agree with you isn’t a hater; they may actually be saving you from wasting your efforts.
As my mama would say, it’s better to have me tell you than someone in the street. In other words, it’s better to hear something from a friend than to have someone else say it. At least when it’s coming from your friend, you know it’s coming from a place of love. In many cases, your friends who tell you the truth, whether you like it or not, are only looking out for you, and those are the people you need to keep around.
Friendships are meaningful, and they make getting through this thing called life a lot easier. They add value to our lives, and quality friends are hard to find, so if you have friends who are honest and who motivate you to be better, reach for more, and support you, keep them around.