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You’ll Never Find Love Until You Do This

I’ve been the girl who didn’t know her worth.

I’ve been the girl who settled for less than simply because I wanted someone.

I’ve been the girl who stayed in a relationship when I knew the situation was dead because I was comfortable, and I didn’t believe I could have anything else.

I’ve been the girl who has spent too much time trying to get someone to see my worth, to see my value, when I didn’t even fully recognize it.

I’ve spent a lot of time being everything to everyone, never taking the time out to be everything to myself first.

I’m not that girl anymore.

I’ve healed and grown, and in doing so, I’m sure of myself. I’m sure of my worth, and I’m sure of the value I add to someone’s life by being myself. I’m sure of what I want, and I’m positive about what I need.

While getting to know myself and interacting with other people, I’ve become very clear on what I require from those I choose to give my time and energy to. I’m not willing to settle for less than I deserve anymore. I also understand that I’m not asking for too much, I’ve just been asking the wrong people.

I invested a lot of time and energy into people who were ‘damaged’ and ‘broken.’ I tried to fix them when what I should have been doing was fixing myself. Once I began to unpack my baggage and face my demons, I began to see myself for the first time. I was able to look at myself and accept myself for the flawed, yet amazing person I am, and that’s when I began to love myself unconditionally.

It wasn’t until I developed a relationship with myself that my relationships with other people changed. When I started expecting more from myself, I expected more from other people. I am not willing to settle for good enough because I deserve the best. I am not willing to make people see my value because if they cannot see it on their own, I am not the person for them.

I realized that without doing anything extra, I am enough.

This journey of self-love and self-discovery is hard at times, but the benefits are so worth it. This society has too many broken people trying to find wholeness together instead of being whole on their own. Focus on healing yourself, loving yourself, and being complete on your own, and you’ll attract that.

I no longer take on the responsibility of fixing anyone other than myself. I can support you on your journey, but I cannot do the work for you.

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