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This Has Changed My Life

It’s my birthday!

Today, I am twenty-six, and I’m so grateful to be alive and well and able to experience another year of life.

As I reflected over the last couple years of my life, the growth has been amazing, and it has brought me to a place I didn’t ever think I’d be in, and for that, I’m grateful.

For many of us, we have our lives planned out of the things we want to accomplish by a certain age, and others of us, simply go with the flow. Lately, I’ve been a bit of both. Some people want to be married by a certain age, have children at another, and own their first home by another. For others, it’s about reaching a certain level in their career by a certain age or traveling to as many places as they can. Whatever it is, we all have some sense of what we’d like to accomplish, and by when.

I think the most crucial lesson I’ve learned over the last year is release. Not only does this apply to releasing things, thoughts, and people from your life that are toxic or simply don’t serve your highest good, but it’s also about releasing the things you do want. Does that sound as crazy to you as it did to me?

It’s not.

When we really, truly want something, most of us think about it often. But, when we think—and overthink—about things, most times it leads us to try to intervene so we can speed things up. Maybe if I just send one more follow-up email, they’ll let me know. Maybe if I check every folder in my email, the acceptance letter will be there. Maybe if I…

The list goes on and on.

Intervening in things, especially when the Universe is at work, only prolongs the situation. Worrying about it, desiring it, putting it on a pedestal will all stall what you’re trying to bring into your life. Desiring something means that you don’t have it, and when you operate from a place of not having something (lack), that is what you will continue to attract. Mother henning a situation doesn’t make it go quicker, either. You know the old adage; a watched pot doesn’t boil? Same thing applies. You don’t have to obsess or focus all your energy and attention on whatever it is you want to manifest.

Set your intentions clearly and allow the Universe to take care of the rest because it will. Things will happen in Divine timing, and that timing doesn’t always align with what we had planned for our lives, but this is why release is important. It removes the expectations and timelines we’ve put on things that are ultimately out of our control.

So, chapter twenty-six is going to be all about continuing to release the things I don’t want in my life, but also detaching myself from the outcome of situations and allowing the Universe to do what it does so beautifully. I am where I am because of it, and it’s not too shabby.


  • Sheena Steward

    Happy Birthday and I hope this year is and amazing. I love the reflection. I’m happy you’re going to continue to practice the act of releasing.

  • Terri

    I really liked this. I’m approaching 30 this year and found myself reflecting like you did. I just have to trust that with my drive and the help of the universe, I got this.

  • Tomiko

    Happy bday! Great read and I’m learning to accept everything will work out. We want what we want when we want it instead of allowing the universe to do it’s thing.

  • Nanekia Ansari

    Great post! We set ourselves of for failure when we can’t release. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

  • Danasia Fantastic

    Sending a very happy and blessed birthday to you! I hope the year of being twenty-six leads you to much success, and most importantly, happiness.

  • Mimi Green

    You are so right, when I force something in my time and when it’s time it doesn’t last. I learned that valued lesson at 22.

    I now know what’s for me shall not pass me.

  • Carissa

    Happy Birthday and I totally agree! Put it out there, work towards your goals but let the chips fall and I guarantee they will still fall in the right place!

  • Elle (CleverlyChanging)

    Happy Birthday, hopefully 26 will be a wonderful year of exploration and success for you. The year I turned twenty-six I became a mom to twins. It was a pivotal year for me. I wish you the best!

  • Ola

    The best thing you can do for yourself is set reasonable goals and work towards them slowly. That and having a close relationship with your Creator are two of the most stabilizing things one can do for themselves.

  • Ramona

    Happy birthday! You are exactly correct. Releasing things that are holding you back is important. It’s easy to get bogged down in thinking about what you should’ve done but focusing on the future is the only way to go. Thanks for sharing your experience.

  • Antoinette Cain

    Thank you for this post. You are absolutely right. I have to remind myself, at times, that things will happen at the perfect time.

  • Sanaa Brooks

    Happy belated birthday! My chapter 26 doesn’t start until Sept, but I’ve already begun doing the same thing. I’m still unemployed, and last year, this would have me on edge every single day! But this year? I’m just letting it all go and believing that things happen for a reason! Hope you enjoyed your birthday!

  • Arlett (Chasing Joy)

    Happy Birthday!

    At 26 I wish I was more of a go with the flow person. I’m much more that way now at 37 but still a work in progress.

  • Kim

    Happy belated birthday! This is your new year to start fresh. I also believe in putting things out to the universe and letting it get handled.

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