Here’s The Thing About Toxic People
The thing about toxic people is that they don’t realize they’re toxic. They don’t realize how negatively their actions impact other people, and themselves. People like this tend to project a lot of what they feel onto the people they come across. They’ll project their thoughts and feelings onto you, and if you’re not careful, you’ll begin to accept those things as your own truth, and that is not the case.
It took me a long time to realize that I had a lot of toxic behaviors. I was and always have been a good person, but there were a lot of qualities about myself that were toxic and unhealthy. I projected a lot of what I thought and felt onto others, and didn’t even realize it. It took me years to finally get it and for that lightbulb to finally go off, and it made sense to me. It also took inviting people into my life (subconsciously) who mirrored my behavior back to me. In most cases, we don’t realize how detrimental something is until we’re on the other side of it.
This epiphany and these experiences have allowed me to become more aware of when people are projecting their thoughts and feelings onto me. I also know that I do not have to accept them as my own if I know them to be false. People will tell you how you feel, what you think, or what your intentions are, and if you don’t know yourself and what you think and feel, you’ll internalize these beliefs as your own when they are not.
We are like sponges, and we absorb things easily if we aren’t properly filtering things out. Be mindful of what you absorb and filter out the things that are not aligned with who you are. You do not have to surround yourself with toxic people, and you don’t have to continue to be a toxic person.
The only person who can make these decisions is you. You have to decide to do things differently if you want to see something different.